I hurt easily. Since my kiddie days, I was this sobby soul who could feel hurt, affronted, bad(the most oft-used adjective!) over just about anything… Strangely, someone called me sensitive(Ugh!) because I tended to feel hurt rather soon. What a bunch of crap.. And because my apparently thick-skinned sister could launch a couple of missiles at the offender without giving way to tears… she was NOT sensitive.
Believe me, I nearly lorded it over others a large part of my childhood… My supposed sensitivity… BLAH!
The pain of things is… I still hurt easily. My first reaction when someone pokes fun at me is…. hurt. Unless of course, the issue is something that I am comfy being ribbed about. I am quite a technophobe… I..
Wait.. Guess I don’t have to reveal ALL here…:)
In any case, I feel that I haven’t got rid of all my diffident and defensive elements within. This need to defend endlessly, justify… it’s all needless. the classic reaction should be… lie back and not bother. And not go into endless explanations and reasons…
I waited 25 years to get this act right.. Not so perfect. When’ll it be?
What prompted this barrage? I was all excited about a new website I chanced on.. which seemed like the perfect antidote to my geographical sense(or the lack of it!). It expanded maps and was a haven of info… and made me detest geography less.. almost like it. I made the mistake of gushing about this to a buddy of mine who is far advanced in such matters. He informed me that the world had progressed far beyond and he could beam right into his home from the skies….
Pachka….. a Hindi word Bombayites might understand….:)
Well, I should have laughed at myself.. Couldn’t.. Needlessly explained, defended, justified…..
rileen says:
Not very sensitive of your buddy.
Given that you’re aware of the need to control the tendency to hurt easily, you’ll get there soon enough – don’t worry about it.
February 25, 2004 — 9:36 am
Lakshmi says:
I think friends (sometimes) tend to take each other and their sensitivity for granted.
Thanks for the vote of confidence..:)
Know what, I don’t think I’ll ever get there, though!
February 25, 2004 — 11:18 am
rileen says:
You’re welcome 🙂
It’s always tricky – you don’t want to become insensitive either ! Learning to be less touchy while remaining sensitive to others is complicated ….
But one can improve with time, that much i can tell you from personal experience.
February 25, 2004 — 11:27 am
Lakshmi says:
I don’t see myself ever turning insensitive, either to myself or to others… The trick lies in bypassing the slight hurt which results from a tactless remark(from your viewpoint) and focussing on the issue at hand. I know it sounds impossibly practical but I am convinced that it can be done!
‘Learning to be less touchy’… that is something which I can learn.. most definitely!
I think it translates as ‘Take yourself least seriously of all’..
What do you think?
February 25, 2004 — 1:11 pm
rileen says:
‘Take yourself least seriously of all’..
A little drastic, don’t you think? ‘Take yourself not too seriously’ should suffice, with ‘not so seriously’ being a good starting point 🙂
February 25, 2004 — 1:14 pm
Lakshmi says:
Actually, these are a part of a statement made by someone famous.. The complete statement and the person who delivered it… I need to find out.
But I sure agree with your idea of ‘not so seriously’…:)
February 25, 2004 — 4:04 pm
rileen says:
Ah, so you were quoting – that explains it, exaggerations often make for better quotes 🙂
February 26, 2004 — 5:21 am
Lakshmi says:
Strictly true?
Not really, I guess…
‘Outside of a dog, a book is a man’s best friend. And inside a dog, it’s too dark to read.’
Not exaggerated and yet a good quote…
February 26, 2004 — 7:04 am
rileen says:
Hey, ‘often’ implies ‘not necessarily always’ 🙂
February 26, 2004 — 8:50 am
Lakshmi says:
Touche….:)
February 26, 2004 — 9:18 am