Here’s a tip. Don’t go get a new haircut if you are unhappy with the state of your hair. (This IS different from wanting to try a new style.) When you are unhappy with the state of your hair, you show up at the salon hoping for a transformation. And the stylist is now burdened with the lofty task of ridding you of disappointing hair AND making your hair dreams come true. This is a classic case of “front loading.” It’s a little like the Christmas Day post I shared about my morning chai being a disaster, so I made another cup… which also turned out sad, and then I thought lunch could improve things (it didn’t), and so on. A series of disappointing food episodes… AARGH.
You cannot erase the memory of a bad meal by going all out to make the next one superb. It doesn’t quite work that way.
Perhaps, another way to see this is… Every action (experience?) is complete and discrete in of itself, and if we drag it into another (or make it the “source” for another), it makes for all sorts of pending hopes, impending disappointment?
I wonder if this is another way to illustrate that every action (experience?) is essentially “closed-loop,” or perhaps, that is the optimum state.